So what are you? Coconut or Peach? What is your communication style?
It is important to adopt different communication styles. Think of a Swiss knife, that each time you choose a different knife, depending on what it is you want to do. The same is true for communication: choose the right tool, at the right time for the right purpose.
Small talk in America is BIG business and it is important to master and learn how to do it professionally. In Germany (or Israel), this may seem superficial and even unprofessional as we usually get straight down to business.